“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.”
C. Joybell C.
“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.”
― Charles Bukowski
Love, love, love, what does it actually mean? a word that we take lightly and thrive to feel.
Love can be defined as an indescribable, deep euphoric feeling for someone ; or yourself. Who says that you can’t love yourself. Love is an incredibly powerful word with so much emotion.
Yet, why do we find it so hard to love ourselves?
I understood the word love to be a strong emotion, and that it could only be applied to what you desired and enjoyed. I never thought of loving myself nor, did it come to mind once. I actually believed you could only love others, and not yourself; that was the whole point of love. Little did I know. That’s a bit silly isn’t it? But, again coming from an environment where you were not told to love yourself or, were able to experience love made it difficult to apply and understand its meaning.
There are many reasons why we made it find it hard to love ourselves; these include:
A. Bad experiences: having traumatic or damaging experiences during our childhood or early years can make it difficult for us to love ourselves. We are programmed rather than condition to love ourselves more when something good happens and dislike ourselves when we meet failure. These awful experiences will only cause us to be destructive to ourselves and not loving oneself can be very harmful.
B. Not being told to love yourself: coming from a background or an environment where ‘self-love’ was not preached or advocated for can make it extremely difficult for someone to love themselves.
C. low self-esteem: will cause a person to have negative thoughts about themselves such as they’re” unlovable or, unworthy”. The thought of loving themselves certainly will not come to mind.
The benefits of loving yourself is immense, and we should encourage one another to love ourselves, otherwise if we don’t then who will?
Loving yourself allows us to:
- enjoy life more
- expands your relationships with others
- makes you more attractive
- makes you a lot stronger
- contributes to your growth!
You are beautiful the way you are and should not have to change for anyone! Love yourself before you love anyone else; you are more deserving than you think.
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